For all things polyamory or relationships of all kinds, listen to Multiamory to edu-ma-cate yourself. Well thought out, discussed and thorough. With over a decade of doing this podcast, the resources and episodes are deep and wide. Their book is marvelously succinct. but doesn’t remotely cover the details of this entire podcast (how could it, though I am waiting for the ultimate tome one day). This trio deserves an Emmy or Webby award for this podcast. They probably got one, but they should get several. Truly excellent grade!

Loving this podcast and voicing a little wish: I would like to see more communication sensitivity: —that the hosts don’t interrupt each other before the person who’s speaking has finished the sentence; —that the hosts don’t summarize in other words what was just said by one of them (because it comes across as __splaining); —that the hosts don’t listen in order to speak, but really listen in order to listen to the person speaking (to address this the hosts could be more sensitive with letting the previous speaker’s point settle and sink in before jumping in with do much gusto). Addressing these things would make a difference to me in terms of experiencing this podcast as balanced and equal. It’s currently not a balanced & equal dynamic among the hosts in part due to these three points. This podcast is fantastic and this is just a little thing I noticed.

This show has brought me clarity on levels I truly wasn’t prepared for, but pleasantly surprised for I am convinced anyone leaving negative reviews are ones that don’t understand the nuances of speaking to a large audience and to seek second opinions for their own health There is so much growth within these podcasters, so many options and tools given to see if you can find your own style, and it’s truly the most amazing podcast I’ve ever listened to Not to mention I love their dynamic! I love how they speak to one another. I love how I feel like I’ve been listening to three friends help me through some really tough and big emotions. Thank you so much for your time, your effort, and your dedication !

I’ve learned a lot from this show for years. I’m not nonmogamous, but in a lot of ways this show has made me a better monogamous person I think. Somehow it’s made me much more sure that I’m monogamous while showing me new ways to practice relationships outside of romance. If I had one criticism, other than a few irritating prescriptivist attitudes I’ve noticed, it’s that all the advertising for retreats to Costa Rica for poly people probably isn’t only irrelevant and annoying for me, as a monogamous person, to hear about. What if a not-rich person polycurious person wanted to go on one of these retreats? I looked it up and of course is starts at $3000 a person. It’s just another reminder that this type of relationship structure is often catered to mostly well-to-do people with a lot of time on their hands

Very good show with a wide range of topics that really are applicable to a wide type of relationships. Guests are also varied. But… the lack of diversity and blind spot on issues outside of Caucasian people is unfortunate - in listening to an old episode about nonverbal communication I was struck by the role of unconscious bias in receiving information people and yet… no mention.

I really wanted to like this podcast, but the man hating and passive aggressive dismissal of the male co-host’s input and opinions have really put me off of what I hoped to be a informative discussion of relational insights. Alienating half of the audience just doesn’t work for me. A privileged gendered bias based podcast is what your in for.

Grateful beyond words for this podcast and the way you all share your perspectives without making guru-like assertions and demands for “right ways to do/be” Long time listener, first time reviewer Re: recent episode, polysaturated, I think poly-deficient would be a great antonym and was what I experienced in my pre-poly life 💚

I have been listening to your podcast for a few years now and I love the dynamic. Especially what Emily beings to the table. As a woman who has made her own decision outside of the « original» basis of the podcast it adds such a lovely middle tension. She allows all of us the freedom to let ourown emotions roam. As a therapist in the sexual/multi ways, folks find their happy place very fluid. I enjoy the very cerebral approach with the back up of research, but I also love Emily breaking through with emotional reality combined with honest insecurity. It’s so beautiful! Bravo to all of you. You are doing such important work!

This podcast is getting me through and learning more about myself and my relationship’s with others and how I want to put an end to past old habits and ways.

This podcast is such a wonderful resource for all things poly, ENM, and just general relationship dynamic. The hosts are lovely and genuine people who try to check their privileges, engage the audience, and educate in an empathetic way... But after bingeing about 25 episodes, I did get tired of the accidental exclusion of so much racial/ethnic minority information, data, and considerations. I have done a lot of research and reading on cultural diversity throughout my formal and informal education, and it's so important to note how much even current science and research is still very lackluster for minority groups. The hosts are very well educated on queer inclusion (evident by their knowledge, the things they reference, they way they call out privileges and stereotypes and social issues related to sex, gender, sexual orientation, etc), but not as strong in areas of racial/ethnic diversity. Don't get me wrong, I still love what the podcast has provided for me, and I am always charmed by the hosts. I just need a long break (it's already been about a year since I listened to an episode) before I can pick it up again without cringing inside.

I have learned so much and it seems like they have an episode on every topic I could think of about relationships (and many topics that never occurred to me). This is such an amazingly helpful and educational podcast that makes me feel so much less alone and weird. Thanks for your hard work and insightful views!

Very helpful! Keep up the good work! I’m really getting some good information .

I’ve learned so much from this podcast. I am a better partner with more self awareness because of it.

The episode on Close Quarters Relationships was just what I needed to hear. I’ve been looking for an episode or a book or some reading to do on how the pandemic has changed relationships on people in relationships who are cloistered at home, and this was just what I needed to hear! Thank you so much to everyone involved with this podcast!

Love this pod! I’ve learned so much more from it than any book or piece of media on the topic. Hosts are so smart and easy to listen to. They explain things so well. Super accessible. Thank you all so much!

So happy to see a podcast promoting and informing on ethical non-monogamy. Its also super nice that the hosts speak from experience as well as using data.

I started my poly journey officially last year, but have been poly my whole life. This podcast has affirmed my feelings and beliefs on a very real level, and with so few resources available I am very grateful I stumbled upon it. I have read the books, but this podcast goes into so many very real situations. I truly feel as tho polyamory (and this podcast) have made me better at relating to not only my partners, but any human that i interact with. Very excited for the book!! The hosts bring in real-world advice, excellent guests, and plenty of psychological studies to back them up. I have introduced my much more experienced partner and meta to this podcast and they have learned new things and have been impressed at the rate I am learning and adapting to this new (to me) relationship style. I also highly recommend subscribing to their Patreon! The fb group and discord have allowed me to find community, and as a poly newb that is so essential. Thank you thank you thank you!!

I stumbled upon your episode 321 when I was in a place where I needed help with some changes in life. Your information helped me find out about adjustment disorder and feeling like I wasn’t alone and this was a thing and not just something my brain concocted was so helpful. Also, the rapport you all have as well as the friendly and relatable way you communicate was so comforting. Thank you for doing what you do.

I am loving your podcast!!! So many great episodes about relationships in general. So many things for my spouse and I to talk about. Very thoughtful and provide great perspectives. Thank you! Thank you!

I am very new to this topic for a reason So far in my episode binging I have heard a great deal about the dynamics of the marital/primary couple but I haven’t heArd as much about the challenges and expectations and perks for person in the second role. I have a hypothetical pros and cons list of this arrangement and so far it’s not looking great for the second but might if I had some more guidance on my end. If there are some episodes for me, I am sure I will land on them eventually. Thanks for a very helpful show which has lots of plain old wisdom about personal boundaries and taking care of oneself.

I love this podcast. It is down to earth, funny, insightful, nuanced, and well balanced.

These three put a lot of resources and ideas into each episode and cover a wide variety of topics. Definitely give it a try!

I have listened to several episodes now, some older ones as well as a few of the newer episodes. The older episodes were pretty good, however the newer episodes are simply GREAT! I am referring specifically to the interviews with Jessica Fern and Marie Thouin. So incredibly informative! Thank you Dedeker, Jace & Emily for bringing this topic out into the world and keep up the great work!

This podcast has given me a lot to think about as I navigate non-monogamy and it’s many nuances. It’s incredibly useful for the most part and I’m grateful it’s available. I do however want to comment on an episode I recently revisited, “Compassion”. I noticed that some of the hosts started using AfrIcan American Vernacular (AAVE) to refer to The Dalai Lama; calling him D-Money or saying he had the “D-L”, and laughing. I would like to encourage the hosts to not use that type of language. If y’all are for the BLM movement that needs to be reflected in all of your actions and words, and not just some virtue signal at the beginning of an episode. Other than that, thank you for the resources your provide. Again, this podcast is great for the most part. I would definitely like to hear the hosts bring more BIPOC into the conversations they have.

I often recommend this podcast to anyone new to non monogamy or anyone looking to further develop their relationship or communication skills. Their content is diverse, relatable, and resourceful. The trio obviously work very hard on this podcast and it shows; which might also be part of their personality. They also obviously care very much about what their audience and others think of them, which can have its own pros and cons. The main criticism I have about this podcast is that the hosts are mostly attractive, white, cisgendered, middle class privileged and it reflects greatly in their approach, commentary, and general perspectives. They do a decent job to balance it out with making notes and comments outside their own identities and by having a variety of other identified guest on their episodes sometimes. It’s just a little cringey to listen to after a while as a POC, but I could see how they might set a decent example to other white people on allyship. They seem to be recycling topics too now. Perhaps it would be a good evolution of their work if they teamed up with more BIPOC LGBTQ identified people to co-produce and have other BIPOC LGBTQ host, not just guest on their episodes to amplify a more diverse spectrum of voices. Thanks for all your hard work y’all, looking forward to continue to witness and celebrate the growth of your labor of love.

I tell everyone about this podcast!! It stands head & shoulders above podcasts of all subjects for its body-positivity, sex positivity, gender inclusivity, and so much more. It normalizes *being human* in a society that tries so often to categorize us. Every single person out there has a passion for love & an interest in relationships. Non-monogamists bring amazing insight to commitment, trust, and communication between all people. And, after all that... its a blast!

The perfect listen for anyone *even a little bit* interested in non-monogamy!

Not only has this podcast helped me in my own relationship dynamics, but it has also taught me a lot when working with clients. This is the kind of info I would have loved to receiving during my psychotherapy trainings. Thank you for filling that void!

I love this podcast! It has opened my eyes to so many different perspectives on relating to people. The hosts are SO articulate and well-versed in this arena. They have inspired me to become a Relationship Anarchist, defining relationships for myself as opposed to adhering to an outdated social construct. I love the hosts’ thoughtful approach to this topic and podcasting in general. Multiamory is truly a podcast made with love!

The world is changing, and so is the social construct around traditional relationships. I myself have only been in monogamous relationships and I don't plan on changing that, but I love the idea of people exploring different types of relationships, and I'm always fascinated by their experiences. The diversity in the ways we love each other is a wonderful thing to see in this world!

Educational and fun! Humans are weird, amazing, beautiful creatures and listening to advice on so many of the different ways people may wish to live their lives is as wonderful as it is refreshing. Keep it up!

I think this show excels when they talk about their personal experiences with a topic, and when they have guests. I really truly appreciate those episodes, and would give five stars if that’s what they did most of the time. But, while i get how fun it is to geek out over studies of different topics, I find the more “lit review” style episodes to be underwhelming because for the most part, queer and/or polyamorous lives are hardly ever reflected in academic studies, and most scholars ask their questions without imagining that we exist or are important, and so my most burning questions about relationships and feelings and intimacy are almost never addressed, which is a let down. Glad this exists, because resources on nonmonogamy are scarce! Here’s hoping they dive into their personal experiences more often.

Comforting to know there’s a positive community for this growing culture

I recently ended a relationship, because I thought I was polyamorous. The diversity of opinions, insights, tools, and experts they have on this show helped me to embrace my identity. If you want to learn to be more intentional in your poly OR mono relationships, this is a tool-dense fantastic resource. I especially appreciated that they had a trans guest and a black female guest. My only complaint is that I wish they featured more BIPOC guests. Otherwise, it is a fantastic podcast!

Dedeker, Emily and Jase deliver interesting, helpful content from a radical lens that most poly media hasn’t successfully done for me. Love and relationships are so multifaceted and everyone is so individual— hearing from a trio of individuals who also have committed to working through communication issues, personal struggles, and relationship challenges together in so many different ways is really invaluable. You DO NOT have to be non-monogamous to glean a ton of wisdom from this podcast. I’ve never left a review for any podcast before but this one has been SO helpful as I grow in new directions. This is currently my number-one most listened to Thing. 👍 Good job, Multiamory. Thank you for the excellent advice! UPDATE: 1.5 yrs later and I’m still listening. I’m a sex and relationships professional and even when I may not agree/like something one of the hosts says, their thoughts always lead to more growth for myself and, in return, the people I work with. This podcast is more than content to listen to, it’s a conversation the listener is invited to take part in.

No matter your approach to romantic relationships, this podcast has something to teach you. These three have helped me identify ideals that I've held for a long time but never had a name for and taught me strategies to navigate through the emotional realm. I wish everyone I interact with had listened to their podcast, it would make things so much easier! We don't know what we don't know. I know more now because of this podcast. Many thanks to Emily, Dedeker, & Jase.

Just recently acknowledged and accepted my desire for polyamorous relationships, after many years of denying my feelings and living “in the closet”. A friend recommended this podcast as a starting point for my journey. I’m so glad that this is a wonderful place for honest and non-judgmental info.

And it’s even entertaining. Poly, mono, queer, bi, trans, cis straight, gay and everything in between ... there’s something here for you

I love what you folks cover. Thanks especially for covering mental health in relationships. I also became a patron and can’t wait to get more engaged!

I was recently introduced to your podcast and am binging it every day! It's so wonderful to have these discussions and even though I'm not sitting with you all you've become people whom I appreciate and who's opinions I find valuable. My husband of 10 years and I have been open/poly for 5 years now. We've had our ups and downs but mostly it's been INCREDIBLE. I haven't listened to all the episodes.. Yet.... But I am a married and mother of two young children. I sometimes wish there was more of a voice that could speak to this on the show. Because you don't really know until you know. My family is my priority.. therefore my husband is my primary. It's very different being open when there are children involved! At least it appears to be from listening to y'all and speaking to friends about it. Anyhow.. thanks for the podcast, I'm stoked.

I never realized how much of a stress scheduling was causing me until I listened to the first episode! So refreshing to hear it talked about out loud. I’ve been really interested in polyamory lately and wondering if it might be the direction that my heart is tugging in. Grateful to be able to listen and learn and think (: (I also read before bed every night, and I love it)

My husband and I decided to open up a tad and he found another couple like us to get together with for a little play or fwb or soft swap. But... It very quickly turned into much more than that and we fell in love (him with her, me with him) and both couples almost got divorced but then put the breaks on divorce and realized that wasn't the only option! We are noobs (we met them 4 months ago) so we're trying to navigate this complicated roller coaster of emotions and parenting and whatnot of being in a quad while deconstructing the very monogamy-only religious background we all grew up with (and are surrounded by living in Utah). I've been listening a lot and sharing episodes with the group, so they now call me the poly expert (which I'm VERY far from, haha). If nothing else, listening to you and other poly podcasts has helped lessen the stigma of loving two people at the same time, something I didn't ever understand before. Thank you!

I’ve found Multiamory to be a really important resource for me as my partner and I have begun the process of opening our relationship (by begun, I mean we’re talking about it a lot!). Sometimes, I share the episodes with him, and sometimes, it’s just really valuable information or perspectives that help me grow and let go, little by little, of the toxic beliefs I have about monogamy. I am slowly unlearning many things about love, relationships, etc. and this podcast challenges me without making me feel judged for not being 100% enlightened. Highly recommend for anyone interested in polyamory/ethical non-monogamy, and even for people who want to have more ethical, loving, respectful monogamous relationships.

I found your podcast via Instagram last year as I was searching for reassurance, community, and info, but I’ve come to appreciate you more and more recently. Right now I’m home alone taking a mental health day from work and listening to some of your episodes, and I can’t go further without reaching out and saying hello and thank you. I honestly didn’t even know that I was searching for affirmation until I found it here. Episode #242 was especially healing, and #244 led me down a rabbit hole of awesome resources. I’m an out and proud part of a poly triad in a small, conservative Midwestern town, and life and love here has been an interesting, sometimes exhausting journey. I don’t have the coherence just now to say everything I’d like to say. The overall message is just a resounding THANK YOU for your thoughtful content. ❤️🧡💛💙💚💜

I’m loving this podcast and find myself wanting to share almost every episode with someone so we can talk about the content. I am a therapist and have referred many clients to Multiamory and The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory. The information in these podcasts are so applicable to ALL relationships, not just open ones. I think that it’s helpful for those of us who are open to be represented but that isn’t the focus 100% of the time. This podcast has helped me to notice areas that I can work on and has turned me towards some great resources too.

This has really helped me understand the value of communication in relationships that we never got as monogamous, much less queer people. It also helped me understand that I have always been poly but didn’t have the knowledge or words to express that side of me ( much like realizing I was gay and what that meant) so here’s to coming out again and thanks to these people that have help make that possible.

No pun intended ;) I’ve had intentions of writing a review for this podcast for a while now. I first discovered these 3 lovely people a few years ago when I found myself opening up yet another monogamous relationship, but that’s a sorry for another day. In moments of frustration, confusion, and exasperation, I found solace and advice in their library of episodes. While sometimes I wish their episodes were a little shorter, they are full of relevant experiences and uplifting anecdotes. If you are new to poly, curious about ethical-non-monogamy, or just seeking to improve your relationship skills, this is a must-listen podcast. Thanks for creating this community you guys!

This podcast is so amazing. I feel like my communication has improved so much from listening and learning from these episodes. I think this is an amazing podcast for anybody interested in either improving their communication or interested in learning about different relationship styles.

This show is so valuable for everyone! No matter what type of relationship you're in, you can learn so much about yourself, other people, and how to effectively communicate in all kinds of relationships and situations. The hosts are engaging, relatable, and professional; blending information with real life reactions and anecdotes in a way that makes this podcast so enjoyable and easy to listen to. I can't recommend this podcast highly enough to people who find themselves in any kind of relationship with other people, be it romantic, platonic, or even professional. Thanks, Multiamory for empowering me to take control of my life, examine my own values and learn to communicate those effectively with others! 💛

Great topics! No matter your situation you can take something away from at least one if not most of the discussions had. Great show!