Guest episodes are so rough I can’t even listen. So much better when it’s just j&j. Stop forcing guests onto the pod. It doesn’t work.

Huge fan of the podcast just came here to say I prefer the episodes with just Jared and Jordana

I’ve been a longtime subscriber of the U Up? podcast and enjoyed it so much that five years ago, I went back and listened to every episode. Even in the early years, there were small hints of a lack of diversity and awareness from the hosts—but those moments were brief and easy to overlook. Unfortunately, their coverage of Love Is Blind Season 8 has completely turned me off. I’m not here to speak on behalf of all marginalized groups, but I do encourage the hosts to broaden their perspectives by surrounding themselves with people who haven’t lived lives similar to theirs. It’s important to understand the experiences of those whose politics and values are shaped—sometimes unavoidably—by their identity as minorities, especially in a society that often treats them unfairly. If you’re looking for a more nuanced and sometimes uncomfortable (but necessary) take on Love Is Blind Season 8’s dating dynamics and underlying politics, I recommend the podcast 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose. I also hope this company and podcast begin to intentionally include more diverse voices in their discussions around dating and relationships.

love the show, listened for years, already gave you a 5 star review but came back specifically just to ask did anyone else feel the energy between Jared and Chelsea?! Make it happen Jared. Update us too please!

Subscriber and I have listened to every episode at least twice 🤣 I will listen to anything Jared and Jordana are on. Their dynamic and commentary crack me up. My dream is to be in New York and run into them and just tell them how much I love the show lol.

I’ve been a long time listener/subscriber and this podcast is getting harder to listen to. Jared has become so cynical and negative and his views are always overly critical of women. He seriously needs therapy, but seems offended anytime someone offers him advice he doesn’t agree with.

The way Jared talks about women is really gross. Unsubscribing after many years of listening. It’s exhausting, immature, cringy, and not fun to listen to.

Very long time listener and absolutely love the podcast but Jared has become increasingly critical of female listeners that have questions about dating. His responses are super critical and sometimes he interrupts to make fun of the email before they’ve finished it. Hard to listen to

Great podcast. Laugh out loud frequently. Love the dynamics and having two different perspectives. Jordana and Jared have great banter too!

The love is blind episodes just had me officially unsubscribe after 6 years of being a listener. Jared clearly hates women and is never going to do the real work to better himself, it’s exhausting being a listener. Ever since he’s been single, hearing him get worse and worse year after year, I just can’t take it anymore. He has NO place to be giving dating advice, he is turning into an incel. Jordana is incredibly privileged and out of touch - unless something has impacted her directly, she doesn’t care to be informed. They are just exhausting to listen to, this podcast is no longer fun for me but infuriating instead. Will no longer be listening.

This is an old episode I’m referring to but the advice is still relevant. Jordana said no news is good news regarding not getting test results from doctors but no news is no news. Always follow up. Never assume it’s okay. Anything can get missed.

Can you guys PLEASE replace Nick and Vanessa on Love is Blind?? You guys would kill it, loved your convo with Lauren

Just listened to the LIB wedding recap, and while I agree with a lot of what J&J shared regarding how the weddings were edited (making it down the aisle just to end it), I think there’s a pretty big miss in how much politics and social issues played a role in these dynamics—it’s kind of an outdated take. Many POCs and minorities can’t just “separate the art from the artist” because, in places like Minneapolis, those views aren’t just abstract; they can be actively harmful. I also agree with Jordana’s point that “we should just talk to each other,” but at the end of the day, that’s 1) not the reality we live in and 2) a bit of a privileged take. This isn’t New York—this is Minnesota, a traditionally conservative state with a blue city, where deep-rooted cultural expectations still shape dating and relationships. And in a place that was at the epicenter of the George Floyd protests and the BLM movement, racial and social justice issues are not just political stances but lived experiences. For women in the Midwest, especially women of color, there’s an added layer of pressure tied to traditional gender roles, family values, and navigating predominantly white spaces. These factors shape dating in ways that people from more progressive cities might not fully understand. It’s not just about the male-female dynamic—it’s about how the broader societal context, historical trauma, and cultural expectations all intersect in ways that this episode completely failed to acknowledge.

Jared coddles the men that write in and eviscerates the women who write in.

I really like this podcast and love Jared. But I cannot stand when Jordana gives takes on society or business. Just completely soulless and vapid. The rich kid-Cornell-CEO pipeline did her dirty on any sort of humanistic interpretation of the world.

also, I’m a speech pathologist and Jared’s right - it is a grift. That said, he could use a speech pathologist to help with vocab and grammar. Every podcast he’s making up a new word like “depthy” or using pronouns incorrectly like “they” instead of “she.” Love you Jordana! Your English is perfect.

Lighthearted and entertaining. I’ve been listening for years. It’s a nice way to disconnect from a technical job. Feather feather

I’ve enjoyed the different perspectives that Jordana and jared have brought to the episodes. It’s a good listen especially if you’re currently navigating the dating world :)

I like this pod because it is basically a way better version of the Viall Files. Love the listener emails and the hosts discussing modern dating. I do wish there was less behind the pay wall and Jared give less excuses for men.

Jordana — look into “puppy blues.” It’s super normal to have feelings of regret at first, especially because puppies can be exhausting at times, but you will adjust and bond with your dog in time and the feeling will pass. I love the show & I’m a paid subscriber. I don’t always agree with everything but I love the dynamic between Jared and Jordana, it’s a fun and easy listen while I do chores or walk my own dog :-)

I love Jared and find both hosts’ opinions great however…Jordana, please let him finish a thought! The constant interruptions to his trying to finish a full sentence!! Cannot stay subscribed just for that simple fact although I like the POVs. Her constant interruptions are just too much.

It will change your life

Jared: "Relationships are fun for women and work for men." Also Jared: "I need a wife to be my assistant and make my doctor's appointments for me." 🙃

I enjoy this show and the topics they discuss. Some things they’re scared to touch on (200lb 5’4” “buff” lady? Come on we know what the problem is), but overall it’s a great show for discussion topics. One thing that’s been really annoying for years is the sound though. The ads are loud, and the hosts’ voice volume varies a lot. Jordana’s mic will be really loud, while Jared’s barely picks up anything. Hard and annoying trying to adjust my volume as they talk. Has not changed over the years I’ve been listening.

Love this show! I have listened to every episode and even subscribed for a bit. However, how many more episodes can y’all can monetize off of Jared‘s “dating fears” when it seems he’s just not into women? It’s no longer fun to listen to this show when one of the hosts clearly does not want to be in a relationship, then claims “his male opinion is within 10% of every man.” The fact that he goes on a million dates yet doesn’t like one of them, he seems to have deeper issues outside of dating.

Jared and Jordana used to give thoughtful, funny advice but now Jordan is so far removed from the dating pool that she just has a year of superiority about everything she says. Meanwhile, Jared clearly has way too comfortable in his current life and doesn’t have the balls to actually get over his people pleasing and communicate with a partner, but refuses to go to therapy. They really started victim blaming and being cruel to some of the people who wrote in. It’s honestly pathetic. They also go on and on about how they want to hear feedback directly instead of negative Apple reviews but guess what - when I tried to write to follow up on an email they totally misunderstood, I was completely ignored.

Jared does want to be in a relationship, but his fear of being conflict, upsetting someone, and being the ‘bad guy’ is stronger. He wants to feel ‘a little delusional’ about someone because deep down he thinks that gives him the certainty that he won’t change his mind (which would make him the bad guy). The irony is that until he really addresses this fear and learns to tolerate other people thinking badly of him, he will be so blocked by hyper-vigilance around ‘the next step’ that it will be nearly impossible for him to feel a sense of delusion with anyone.

I love this show and look forward to it every week! I have ever seen Jared live several times. Highly recommend

I love Jared as a comedian but his role as a host of a dating podcast is becoming increasingly concerning. He has no desire to date or commit and clearly has many issues to work through in therapy. His responses to some of the games are funny, but in terms of giving actual advice, he’s just not there and it’s frustrating to listen to.

Jared, please turn the Facebook hacking story into a bit. That’s the hardest I’ve laughed in a while.

Love the pod but maybe fact check before you post an episode? Rachel did not end things with matt james lol she did a 2 hour interview on call her daddy yesterday explaining him breaking up with her

There’s a new start to the show, maybe because of a new producer, where, before the credits music, there’s a short teaser of a funny moment in the episode. I hate it! It’s so disruptive and annoying, and throws off the first few minutes. I always think to myself “did I accidentally start the podcast ten minutes late?” Also, is Emily Freid Jared’s family member? If she is, I think Jared should address it.

One of my favorite shows! Jordana and Jared have a great dynamic. Their ease and conversations have gotten better and better over the years. Their mutual care and respect for each other is the heart of the show. I laugh in every episode and appreciate their honesty and empathy when answering questions.

I am unwell with how funny the benefits episode was with Jordana talking about the dog update. Incredible content, you really can’t make this stuff up. Thank you both for always giving the best in every episode but especially the benefits episodes.

Big fan of the podcast! Just listened to the avoidant discarding episode and my brain is exploding over the RF or DB: guy doesn’t have ice. I am a 39 YO woman and don’t have ice!!!! Homeowner, successful lawyer in a big city, good dog parent, newly separated - was it the lack of ice????!!! I just buy ice when I need it. Is this not okay???? But in all seriousness so much fun, hope everyone listens!

As a longtime listener, this podcast doesn’t get old for me. I love J&J and their chemistry on this pod. It feels like two real friends just catching up. Love you guys, keep it up!!

Love this show so much, great content and I love J&J. Just dropping a note that I didn’t really like the Mel episode - she came across to me as very condescending. Loved Logan Ury though (& also all other episodes!!) Keep it up J&J 💖

All the feathers! Editing my review to say that I am now a happy subscriber: I subscribed to listen to the episode of Jared getting a coaching session with Logan and I absolutely loved it! She hit the nail on the head with each question and Jared was truly vulnerable. Jordana is always inspiring and direct. Keep up the good work you both ❤️

Subscriber for several years, love the show! You guys do an awesome job balancing keeping things funny while addressing tough issues, kudos! I really tried to like the Mel episode but it’s pretty hard to take advice from someone who’d been married for 20 years and has zero experience dating since the 2000’s. She also contradicted herself a couple of times which didn’t land well. On the other hand Logan and Kelly were great! Thanks for all you do!!

This is hard to write because this podcast got me through a lot and helped me get back on the dating scene. I loved Jared’s advice of holding your own standards and jordana is always very empathetic and witty. However, after Jared ended his last relationship, for a while I was listening because it helped me feel better about where I was… always hungover, always regretting his night’s decisions, I felt less alone (not proud of this but true). But now, I just feel like the constant focus on his love life is unnecessary. There are enough people here saying how annoying it is to hear him whine while poor Jordana tries to be a therapist. I once dated a guy who admitted he used dates as therapy. Let’s remove this part of the show until he actually has some sort of revelation and something insightful to share instead of going in circles ever episode. Also- I loved how point blank Mel Robbins was and agreed with her on a lot of things and loved that she could actually interrupt Jared, no one else can figure out how.

I had to stop halfway through bc that lady is truly insufferable and condescending—“let them” walk all over you? I’m good. Feels like she should stick to parenting advice not dating advice.

I could listen to Mel Robbins chew Jared up all day long. His hangups around dating have become increasingly frustrating to listen to. Logan Ury is great too, but she’s so nice. It’s like bad cop, good cop. Not sure which Jared needs. Maybe both. Jordana strikes that middle ground. People only change when they want to. I hope he gets it together in 2025. Might be time for therapy. And Jared’s mom… oy vey. Whoever he ends up will play second fiddle to that woman unless he develops a backbone.

Mel’s episode was a hard listen. Don’t you ever have her back on the pod. Typical boomer mindset. That woman hasn’t been single in decades and it shows. What’s her deal interrupting J&J in their own home and podcast. Kick rocks lady!

Love you guys. Mel Robbins was insufferable tho.

I genuinely like the content, I think it’s more the hosts that I’m iffy about.. Jordana is a bit judgmental. Jared legit sounds like he is on something about 80% of the time??? Slurring his words and not making any sense lol. I think his head is getting too big for his own good.

Used to be such a fan, but this is getting real stale. Jared whining constantly about the same exact things, Jordana distilling all of dating down to the biological clock of it all and bringing up her one crazy long situationship up at any slightly relevant chance since she also seems to be out of any fresh thoughts. I think this pod has run its course.

Therapist here listening- LOVED Logan Ury and her dating coaching ep for Jared. He was so vulnerable and introspective. Excited for his 2025!

Love J&J - been listening since the beginning and am a subscriber! I recommend Jared’s comedy to everyone! Can’t wait for the next special, let’s go Netflix! Love when a new episode drops!!

I’ve been a loyal U Up. Listening on Spotify since 2018 and a subscriber since the benefits began, but I just canceled my subscription. Want to know why? Jared. His approach to dating has become frustrating. He says he doesn’t play games, but his behavior tells a different story. Claiming you’re “not looking for a relationship” , as he said he would from the January 1st episode, while hoping to accidentally stumble into the right one is a game. Real relationships take effort, accountability and some measured delusion 😋, qualities Jared seems unable to embrace. Until Jared works on his fear of “waste someone’s time” and his reluctance to do the personal work, his advice will remain out of touch and unhelpful. It’s disappointing to see his perspective become so impractical, which is why I’m moving on. Thanks for the years of great advice. It’s radical changed my approach to dating and I can now say I am truly happy. Best of luck out there to Jared, I really do hope he gets out of his own way to find what he’s looking for. And thanks Jordana for always saying what we are all thinking or feeling.

I’ve been listening to this podcast since the beginning and was a JTrain listener before that. Love the pod - I look forward to it every week. I liked when Jorge was around to provide his married take on things but don’t think anything else needs to change!